EVERYTHING HAPPENS FOR A REASON
July 27, 2020
According to the great Greek philosopher, Aristotle, “Everything always happens for a reason. Every experience in your life is designed to shape you and help you grow into the highest and mightiest version of yourself. With that being said, we can perceive every negative experience as an opportunity for growth, rather than time for suffering. Yet this does not mean that we should avoid grieving or feeling down when we do. After all, we always need some time to heal, and we deal with this individually, in our own ways.”
Some people may not quite agree with the words: “Everything happens for a reason.” This can be understandable, especially when someone goes through a horrific experience, or has to watch someone else go through it. At the time, it is very hard to see the lesson or blessing within it. All you see or feel is pain rather than the good things behind the pains.
THE EVIL OF ENVY
Envy (from Latin invidia) is an emotion which “occurs when a person lacks another’s superior quality, achievement, or possession and either desires it or wishes that the other lacked it”. Aristotle defined envy as pain at the sight of another’s good fortune, stirred by “those who have what we ought to have.” Wikipedia. Envy is also a feeling of discontent and ill will because of another’s advantages, possessions, etc.; resentful dislike of another who has something that one desires.”
However, that pain may bring about the best change. We often need to experience low points in our life to gain the wisdom and knowledge that we need to know, to experience the high points. For example, imagine going about your daily life in a cold climate, refusing to layer up. You may feel cold, but due to laziness, you may choose to ignore it. However one day, you may experience extreme coldness and as a result, you become ill. Although illness is not pleasant, it may prompt you to layer up in the future so that you stay warm and do not experience another or worse illness. Sometimes we have to take a look back at the events and connect the dots. Only then do things start making sense.
Here is a little inspirational story that illustrates the fact that everything happens for a reason:
Once upon a time there was a King who had a very close trusted advisor. This advisor was a wise man with whom he would always converse with, about problems that occurred and issues that required attention. But the King noticed that whenever there was an accident, the wise man would always say one thing: “Everything happens for a reason, and that’s great!” While the King liked the wise man, he wasn’t exactly sure about what this meant and how an accident can be great.
One day, the King decided to go out hunting and he took the wise man with him. During the hunt a terrible accident occurred to the King; one of his fingers got chopped off. The King helplessly asked the wise man why such an unfortunate incident had happened to him, especially after ruling his country with such love and being so respected by all his people. At that very moment, the wise man just said, “Everything happens for a reason, and that’s great!”
This time the King reacted angrily and said, “You’ve been eating my food and living from my wealth, and now you only have these stupid words to say! You think that it’s great to have my finger cutoff?!” The King considered him to be crazy and insensitive, so he then ordered his soldiers to throw the wise man into prison as punishment.
Some people who had sought the wise man’s advice in the past visited him in his cell. Whenever they asked him how he was doing, he calmly replied, “Everything happens for a reason, and that’s great!” People were puzzled by this and convinced that the wise man was out of his mind.
After some time, the King decided to go out again on a hunting expedition with his troops. He fled deep into the forest far away where he was suddenly confronted by a cannibal tribe that was living there. The tribe captured the King and everyone that he brought along. The cannibal tribe were actually preparing for the festival of sacrifice! They were searching for the perfect sacrifice for the worshiping ceremony, and with just their luck, they got their hands on the King! He was destined to be sacrificed.
As the shaman prepared for the ritual, he examined the King. As he examined him, he realised that one of the King’s fingers was missing. He told the tribe master about this and said it would be refused because according to their religion, sacrifices can only be made to complete physical bodies. He warned that if they were to proceed with an incomplete sacrifice, according to beliefs, this would bring god’s curse upon them. Taking this into consideration, they decided that the King was not “worthy” and the tribe master decided to release him.
With great relief and shock, the King now figured out that if it wasn’t for the finger he had lost, he would have lost his life. He remembered the words the wise man had told him: “Everything happens for a reason, and that’s great.”
Realising that the wise old man was right, the King went to see him on his return to the capital. He brought him out of prison personally and told him everything that had happened, including how his missing finger saved his life. “It really was great after all” the King said. Yet still confused, the King proceeded to ask, “In my case, it was indeed good that I lost my finger, but, what I wanted to ask you was, what was so great about you being put in prison and having to eat only dry scraps of bread?” The wise man, at no loss of words, replied:
“Your Majesty, if I had not been locked up in prison, and left behind, I would have gone hunting with you and I would have been captured with everyone else. They would have surely set you free because you are an incomplete sacrifice, but for me, just like everyone else, I would have been sacrificed by the tribe. So it’s great that I was thrown in prison before this happened. Like I always say, “Everything happens for a reason, and that’s great!”
FAILURE IS NOT AN OPTION
Life keeps unfolding things we want to believe, likewise things we do not want to believe. The more we observe life, the more we see pros and cons of life. The more we review the events of life, the more we believe what we ought not to believe.
Although it is not always obvious why certain things happen to us, sometimes we just have to believe that there is a good reason behind it. At times we may lose an opportunity that we thought is the best for another better and greater opportunity to come our ways. God may deliberately close some doors against us because what is behind the door may hurt us in the future. Some friends leave us in life for us to start more glorious relationship with a new set of friends. Some trusted people betray us in life, for us to learn lessons about life. Sometimes, good things fall apart so a new thing may spring off. Always remembers that everything happens for a reason.
Extract from: http://www.bonvitastyle.com/
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